Well all Social Engine 4 users , do you know why social engine 4 takes soo much server resource, its takes all server ram, WHY? Does Social Engine Official Team has this answer? No…… But Social Engine Forum aka SEF team has this answer with proper solution, would it be shared for free or premium.
Its not social engine 4 script problem, its because Social Engine 4 using InnoDB database, Problem lies inside your database and your server MYSQL configuration, you need to configure something in your MY SQL
Another solution to control Ram Buffer and some other things for innodb
For my UBUNTU LINUX SERVER EDITION 10.5 its file location
its configuration file of MYSQL
add these line in the end of file, and make sure entry should not be double, kindly search for same line in file before .